Well Christine has now officially disappeared into the Canadian Wilderness…. the hotel where she is suppose to be staying has no record of her… she checked in once in the middle of the night with an IM saying the laptop I gave her works great but has yet to email, message me her room number and of course as you all know her cell phone doesn’t work outside of Los Angles (this is something that is going to be addressed as soon as she arrives home, she is not going to China with this fucking piece of shit cell phone. Normally at this point I’m just enjoying the silence and getting a lot of work done but this is very unlike Christine she likes to send her flight info 17 times before she leaves and email my 14 times in the first day she is there… granted it is usually to check on her plants or cat but the fact that she has not checked in when we are on good terms… has me concerned it’s time to get the mounties involved.
Well those of you who have been reading our blog for years remember remember a cool little feature we had called “Classic Posts” basically the most controversial, funny or commented posts we have would randomly be rotated to the front of the blog. We did this because we felt it sucked for people to have to “dig” to find the REALLY great posts. Well over the years, wordpress has changed and the original hack that allowed this cool little feature to exist was squashed as a bug, thus the classic posts vanished. Well I’ve rededicated to making CvC a very cool blog, mostly because all of you readers have contributed so much and that deserves something from us.
This weekend I’m proud to announce my first wordpress plugin: Classic Posts
Being sexy is different than being sleazy. I see a lot of young girls confusing the two: looking/acting sleazy and thinking they’re being sexy. These young ladies seem to think (at least I did) that when lots of guys whistle at them, or try to hang all over them, they must look sexy. There are a lot of young girls wearing super tight shirts and super short skirts and looking like prostitutes (whether they have the right body for those types of clothes or not), all the while thinking they look sexy. That’s not sexy, that’s sleazy. If random guys are giving you that kind of attention– whistles, lewd remarks, etc.– it’s because they think you’re easy to sleep with. Sexy is a something else. I made many of the same mistakes as a teen, but in the 33 years I’ve now been on the planet, I’ve learned a thing or two. So here are six tips to young women on how to be sexy:
1. Treat your body well.
A girl is sexy — and I think most men will agree with me– when she takes care of her body and is fit (takes pride in how her hair, skin, and nails look, works out, and eats right so she has a lean figure). A sexy body (ie– a gym body) looks sexy in every kind of clothes it wears– from your boyfriends oversized t-shirt, to a cute little dress and heels. A sexy body doesn’t need a certain type of sexy clothes to make it look sexy. It’ll look great in those tiny little crop tops and low-rider jeans, but it’ll also look great in everything else. Get the body, before you buy the clothes.
2. Guys are attracted to confidence like magnets attract metal.
I hate to say it, but it’s in our nature (both men and women) to disrespect people who don’t respect themselves. It’s been my experience that when I’m with a guy who allows me to walk all over him, I will. Even if I don’t want to, it happens anyway. I realized pretty quickly that I needed a guy with enough confidence to stand up to me when I’m being a bitch and not cater to my every whim. Guys are the same way. A lot of young girls try so hard to please guys, the guys don’t respect them. If you want guys to find you sexy, be confident. Be confident in your appearance, in your actions, in your decisions. Make decisions and stick to them regardless of who tries to talk you out of them. Confident women are the ones who don’t get whistled at because guys sense they won’t get her approval if they do that. Confident women are the ones that guys want to spend time with rather than just spend time in bed with.
3. Your pussy is not a negotiation tool.
Be in control of your sexuality. Don’t use sex as a way to get something from a guy. It’s not a tool to be used to reward him for something, to manipulate him into something, to make him jealous that you’re giving it to some other guy, or any other of the myriad of reasons women have sex other than they want to have sex. Using your sexuality to gain something (other than the pleasure of the experience) isn’t sexy. You’ll just feel cheap and slutty for doing it afterward, and guys don’t want that either. Guys don’t want girls to sleep with them because they feel obligated to, or because she can make someone else jealous if she does. Guys want women to have sex with them because they want to. Sexy women are enthusiastic about the experience, enjoy it, take part in it. They want to be there, they want the guy to get off, and they want to get off. Guys don’t want a manipulative girl in their lives for the long term. They may not care if she’s just there for the night, but if you play those kinds of games, you’ll never be one of the girls they ever really care about.
4. Less is more.
Men naturally find women, in general, to be attractive. Beautiful women are not the ones who wear so much make up, you’re not sure what they really look like underneath. Leaving only a faint whisper of the scent you have on as you pass a group of guys will leave them wanting to get closer to you… wearing a ton of perfume will make them choke and want to open a window. There are a million products on the market that will make us look prettier and more feminine. That doesn’t mean you need them all. From my experience, guys tend to find natural women more attractive than women who paint their faces on or use way too many products to invent themselves into something they’re not. When a girl is natural, a guy knows what he’s getting. Don’t overdo it.
5. Attitude is as important as appearances.
I’m not saying appearances aren’t important. They are. But no guy will stay with a beautiful bitch when he becomes aware that there’s a beautiful cool chick sitting at the next table. If you have a sense of entitlement, lose it. Be the kind of person anyone– guy or girl– would want to have as their best friend.
6. Sexy isn’t insecure.
No guy wants to sit with a girl who picks apart every other woman she sees, waving her insecurity around like a banner. Going on about how ugly another girl is won’t make him think she’s ugly when she’s not. It doesn’t work. Be secure with yourself, flaws and all, and you’ll end up commanding the attention of men without having to try to convince them that your competition doesn’t deserve it.
Why this American love affair with recycling? Several “myths” that fuel it. For example, plastic packaging is widely criticized because it doesn’t decay in landfills. But paper and cardboard — though technically biodegradable — also tend to remain intact, and actually use far more landfill space than plastic packaging, which has steadily gotten smaller as manufacturers develop stronger, thinner materials. In fact, it takes 12 plastic bags to fill the landfill space occupied by one paper bag.
Though fast-food containers and plastic packaging may seem wasteful, they actually save resources and reduce trash. Lightweight plastic packaging keeps food fresh longer, and takes much less energy to manufacture and transport than cardboard or paper. The typical household in Mexico City buys fewer packaged goods than American households, but it produces one-third more garbage, because Mexicans buy fresh foods in bulk and throw away large amounts that are spoiled or stale. Not surprisingly, food manufacturers save money when they use resources efficiently. A typical McDonald’s discards under two ounces of garbage per customer, less than what’s produced in an average meal at home.
Most of us believe that it is more “virtuous” to drink from a ceramic mug than a styrofoam cup. But, it takes much more energy to manufacture the mug, and each washing consumes significant quantities of both water and energy. Scientists have calculated that a person would have to use a mug 1,000 times before its energy-consumption-per-use is equal to the cup’s. In other words, if the mug breaks after your 900th coffee, you would have been better off using 900 polystyrene cups.
Why do I take the time to recycle soup cans? I have always assumed that my efforts save precious natural resources, and help ensure that future generations won’t be buried by the garbage I generate.
Recycling newspapers, often makes little sense. Paper is an agricultural product, made from trees grown specifically for paper production. We are hardly running out of timber — American forests contain three times more wood today than in 1920. Our concerns about depleting non-renewable resources may also be overblown. Copper, tin and other metals are cheaper than ever, though 40 years ago conservationists urged rationing so that future generations would have telephone wires and food containers. Today, we send our phone calls through fiber optic cables, made from sand, and most food containers contain no tin at all. Thanks to human ingenuity, the cost of most natural resources has been declining for years.
Generally, the cheapest and best way to dispose of garbage is to bury it. Modern landfills have little in common with the smelly town dump we remember from childhood. They are regulated by strict federal safety standards, and courts have routinely found them to be acceptable alternatives to expensive incinerators. In fact, the article notes, that “mountain of garbage” we fear is highly unlikely to materialize. According to one calculation, if Americans generate garbage at current rates for 1,000 years, and put it all in a landfill 100 yards deep, by the year 3000 the whole lot will fill a piece of land 35 miles square.
We live at a time when meaning and purpose are hard to come by, and the pace of technological change often seems overwhelming. It is comforting to think that — simply by making the “right” choice at the grocery store, or engaging in a daily six-minute recycling ritual — we can advance the transcendent task of “saving the planet.” But we must resist the temptation to reduce issues as complex as waste disposal to bumper sticker slogans.