3 Myths About the Female Orgasm

Posted on July 24th, 2005 by Christine.
Categories: Sex and Relationships, Sports Fanatics.

I’m going to use a lot of sports analogies here just to make things crystal clear.
Here we go… myth vs. reality about the female “oh, oh, orgasm.”

Myth #1

If a woman can’t orgasm, she must be frigid.

Reality: The term “frigid” became common post-sexual revolution when men finally realized that the femaile orgasm was not only possible, but integral to a woman’s sexual experience. If a woman didn’t orgasm, it was believed she couldn’t and was labed “frigid” which let her partner off guilt-free if he couldn’t make her cum. In reality, no woman is frigid (unless she’s living in a country that practices female genital mutilation). By the age of 25, all women have the physical ability to orgasm, and some do at a much younger age. If a woman doesn’t orgasm, it is because of one of two reasons: her partner doesn’t know how to stimulate her to orgasm, or she has a psychological block. The female orgasm is about half physical and half mental, so if she psychologically won’t relax enough to allow herself to climax, the physical stimulation won’t get her there on its own.

Myth #2

To enjoy sex, a woman has to climax every time.

Reality: There has to be a balance here and the expectation from both partners needs to be reasonable. If your woman only orgasms 50% of the time, then that’s probably not enough. Think of it this way… pretend you play on a softball league. It’s fun. You like doing it. You enjoy most aspects of it… being out in the crisp, night air; connecting with teammates; etc. You look forward to games and feel good afterward when the whole team goes out for pizza and beer. But isn’t it more fun if your team wins at least most of the time? Doesn’t the high of winning add that little something extra? Are you seeing the parallel here? We (women) enjoy sex even when we don’t cum, but keep in mind that if you play on a league that rarely wins a game, you’ll probably decide not to sign up next season.

Some men feel like failures if they don’t make their woman cum at every session, or feel inadequate if she only climaxes once (God bless these men and bestow upon them a lifetime of happiness, success, and good health!). Women do not know how lucky they are until they have a guy like that!

faking it is a way to spare you the feeling of inadequacy. Even though a guy who makes a girl cum all the time should have no reason to feel inadequate when he doesn’t, guys seem to have a tough time believing what I just explained in (a). The last thing a woman wants to do after sex is answer the question, “Why couldn’t you cum?” or see that disappointed, resigned look on a guy’s face when he finally gives up. We want you to feel like a man’s man (insert masculine-sounding grunt here) after banging the shit out of us… not wish the experience was somehow different. So… sometimes we fake it. When we know it’s not going to happen, we just end it early so you don’t have to keep trying. On any other day, we’d be shaking and screaming– so why tell you that we couldn’t climax and have you end up reassessing a winning game plan because of a fluke? And why risk shaking the MVP’s confidence when we know he’s got skillz? So faking– like in football– can be good. If we rarely orgasmed with you, we wouldn’t bother faking it… we’d just lie there, annoyed, and let you know that you’re a big fat failure who needs a skill-check. Not faking is our little way of letting you know you’re not quite up to par without actually having to tell you. If your woman fakes, it means she either really cares about you, or you’re damn good in bed and she doesn’t want you to change a thing. So those are the 3 biggest myths dispelled. Now… if you need a play-by-play on how to score those triple plays– I can’t help you. I have no idea how the magic happens, I just know when it does. Maybe I can inspire Christopher to write a post on that one. When it comes to most matters concerning women, he’s usually so far out in left field, you need binoculars to see him… but on this particular subject, he’s got a pretty decent track record. I guess a sharp tongue really can be good for something… 9 comments. Flights, Fast Food, and Getting Fucked »« 10 Helpful tips on how to Handle an Insane Girlfriend Christopher the Pyro hunt n' pecked this … Where to start, where to start.. Christine is actuallly right on Myth #1 that is true. As for myth #2 the only reason this is important to guys is that it is in our own best interest to make sure she enjoys getting railed… so you can do some more railing… so whatever Christine say’s on this.. listen.. as for Myth #3.. really why the fuck would I care if she is faking it.. as long as I’m getting off and she lets me fuck her again and whenever I want.. then something must be cool.. so whatever. July 28th, 2005 Christine the Lioness asserted LOL! Christopher can pretend that he doesn’t care whether or not women fake, but when I wrote about faking in the “10 Things Every Man Needs to Know About his Woman,” Christopher didn’t seem so indifferent. The conversation went like this… Christopher: So you’ve faked it, huh? Christine: Huh? Christopher: You said every woman has faked, so you’ve faked it. Christine: Well, yeah. Of course… Christopher: With me? Christine: Christopher… (sigh) Christopher: What? Well have you? Christine: No, babe. Not with you. Christopher: I think you have. Christine: I haven’t. Besides, you wouldn’t know because I’m too good of an actress. Christopher: How many times? Christine: Never. You’re not listening… Christopher: I can tell when you fake it. Christine: If you could, then you wouldn’t be asking me these questions, right? Christopher: Whatever. Christine: Babe, seriously. You don’t need to worry. When I’m unhappy with stuff, you know I complain. Christopher: That’s for sure. Christine: So if it were an issue… I’d let you know. But I haven’t faked, so it’s not important. Christopher: If you say so. But don’t let Christopher deceive you… if he didn’t care as much as he pretends he doesn’t care, he wouldn’t be as good as he is. July 29th, 2005 Christopher the Pyro remarked This is a good example of Christin living in her own little world where she has complete and full conversations with me, and then retells them as if they actually happen. Now lets pretend this conversation happened. Let me point out the parts the might be factual. When she isn’t happy she does bitch… if she had and issue she would tell me there is no doubt in my head, she would tell me like 800 times… and what can I say.. it is in my best interests to make sure Chrissy is happy.. she cooks dinner and cleans my house and washing my car and things like when she is getting fucked the right way. (since we are being a little delusional here I thought I would throw in that bit about the cleaning my house and washing my car). August 1st, 2005 Trouble the Pirate scribbled Sooooo… You’re saying that the chicks I rape might NOT be enjoying it? … I now have 3rd degree coffee burns in my nostrils… August 2nd, 2005 Christine the Lioness quibbed this Your victims burn you with coffee? Interesting… I would have opted for ripping off your nuts with my bare hands… but that’s just me. August 3rd, 2005 celebritygossipandchat  penned this Just wanted to say Myth #2 is so dam funny! Good comparsin. August 16th, 2005 Ben the Kingpin pontificated It annoys me no end that my friends don’t understand these things. *sigh* Good luck in teaching them. I will say, however, after 17 years of marriage, it gets a *lot* better once she hits about 35… October 25th, 2005 » 2005 The Chris vs. Chris Year in Review by Battle of the Sexes the Groupie got all philosophical […] July 2005 Christine disspells 3 Myths about the Female Orgasm right here on Chris vs. Chris. 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