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Ben2 the Soldier (56) Christine the Lioness mentioned
As much as it kills me to agree… I’m going to have to say that Christopher’s advice in this particular area is pretty sound.
He comes off pretty damn good on a first date… it isn’t until the third or fourth date that you realize how much you want to strangle him… but by then, the sex is too good to give up.
The thing to remember is, no matter how you accomplish it…
1. Make her feel special.
2. Giving her choices will make feel more comfortable and communicate to her that you care about her preferences.
3. Keep the topics of conversation light so you don’t scare her off.
4. Checking her out without ogling her makes her feel attractive, but that you want something more from her than just sex.
5. Touching her hand, arm, or back is good. It shows you want to be physical with her, but touching her leg, breasts, and ass is bad.
Two things I disagree with on Christopher’s post…
1. If she brings up sports, she’s a sports junkie??? Hardly. I love talking about football, but I’m far from a sports junkie. Sometimes Christopher has a momentary lapse of reason.
2. If you do the 3 restaruant choice thing… YOU should pick three restaurants and let her choose one. Don’t ask her to pick three and then you can choose from those. When you choose the initial 3, it tells her that you are capable of making decisions and planning dates, and it also gives her a price range to choose from. Most women– at least the kind you should be dating– don’t want a guy to feel like he has to spend a fortune on them. If you make her pick the first three, she’ll obsess over them and it will take the fun out of it. She’ll be afraid that she’s either picking something too expensive and you’ll think she’s high maintenance, or she’s picking something too cheap and insulting you. You’re the one who’s paying. You know what you can afford. If she’s cool, she’ll be content with wherever you take her. She’ll be impressed that you can take charge and make a decision, impressed by your taste in restaurants, and impressed that you care enough about what she wants to get her opinion on it. 
Christopher the Pyro penned this
Christine is right.. just because a woman knows what a 1st down is.. doesn’t mean she is a sports junkie.. my bad.
kines the Virgin mentioned
Some of the most constructive useful advice I’ve ever read. *copies and keeps it for future reference*
Thanks!
Christopher the Pyro scribbled
Thanks Kines, I appreciate the kind words. I’ll update it as I gather more!
Christine the Lioness got all philosophical
Jesus, Kines… don’t encourage him… please. *rolls her eyes and sighs loud enough to get attention*
Was Chris abducted by aliens? Who wrote this post? I want some answers!!! Bring back my friend Chris you dirty alien!!!!!
Christine the Lioness hunt n' pecked this
Change of plans, Alien… you can keep him if you want. There are plenty of caucasian guys out there… Next…
Sergei Shelukhin the Virgin hunt n' pecked this
Damn. I read conversation topics. I read them again. Can you please include good conversation topics too, cause this list is basically all i can talk about and beyond (i can tell anekdotes well too and discuss history scientifically, but that just ruins the mood). Looks like I am never getting laid by anyone classy 
Richard Smith the Virgin spake, and sayeth
Well this would be very useful, but my girlfriend would just be against me going out on any dates!!
Christine the Lioness up'n wrote this
LOL… yeah, you don’t need to worry about round 1 when you’ve already made it to round 6, or 7… or 8… 
Christopher the Pyro pontificated
Unless your training for your next bout.
bob the Virgin pontificated
….well stated Chris.
Christine the Lioness commented
Aah… now i know what Christopher’s comment in #11 actually meant… I suppose I was the stupid one for thinking that a guy would actually be interested in more than just “training for his next bout” for an entire year…
Christopher the Pyro asserted
Training, don’t worry nobody just trains for a year.
Kara the Virgin asserted
Had a date with a guy once who complimented me until I wanted to toss my cookies. He had pretty much by the end of the date convinced me that I was on some sort of pedestal and he couldn’t believe he had gotten a date with me, or wasn’t “worthy” as he put it. And that was one way to complete talk himself out of a second date. He babbled in an embarrassed manner until his cheeks were red! I’m just a normal, average looking person. His gushing was much too much to take.
(Confidence, fellas! You CAN overdo your enthusiasm and awe! Don’t!)
Christine the Lioness said this
Yes… there is a fine line between complimenting a girl and over-doing it so much that you wind up convincing her that she’s way too good to hang out with a loser like yourself. Personally, I appreciate sincere compliments (we can tell the difference between the genuine ones and the ones that are trying to work their way into our panties)… but nothing is sexier than a confident guy who could get a thousand girls, but he’s choosing to get you over the other 999… and on top of that, if you can tell he’s not desperate, but finds you very attractive and is secure enough to tell you that’s what he thinks… ahhh… you’ll get her hooked on date number one.
Christopher the Pyro added
I don’t know how often I feel awe for a women.. but I’m often bemused.
Christine the Lioness uttered
Trust me, Christopher… I don’t think she was referring to you. LOL.
Khrystal !troubled teen! the Virgin hunt n' pecked this
plenty of others out there… lol i got a question kinda off the wall but you might be able to help if not could you direct me to some one that can?
I broke up w my bf for another guy but he ended up cheating on me, this happened almost 3 months ago, so why am I still head over heels for the guy that cheated on me?
Christopher the Pyro asserted
That’s easy because, he didn’t want you. As people we tend to have an obsession with people who don’t want us back.. think about a stalker to stalked relationship.
Christine the Lioness remarked
I’m not sure I totally agree… yes, we do tend to want people who don’t want us back because women (especially) assign him wanting us to receiving some sort of approval. Read “The Game,” and you’ll know what I’m talking about… But Khrystal never said the cheater didn’t want her… she didn’t say one way or another if he dumped her or was sorry and promised not to cheat, etc.
There could be a whole host of other reasons that you’re into this guy… you were obviously into him enough to dump your own boyfriend for him three months ago so the ‘head over heels’ part obviously started before he cheated.
I’m guessing you aren’t so much ‘head over heels in love’ as you are fascinated with this guy, who if he’s cheating on you, in my opinion, is pretty much an a-hole you’d be better off without. Those feelings do go away, so if I were, trust your brain right now and move on even if you find yourself still obsessing over him… those feelings of desire will decrease dramatically as soon as you find someone else you’re interested in.
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