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SypeFurry the Soldier (60) Christopher the Pyro got all philosophical
She is usually saving my seat and I am left to carry all the food and drinks.. but I think she might be onto something with this post. 
I think the feelings of “love” can come on very unexpected at time however I don’t believe in love at first site on any level.. lust at first site.. maybe but true feels of love do have to be built over time.
ProphetJoe the Irreverent got all philosophical
Love is one of those words which is not easily defined — it’s too subjective. To ‘topher (and I’m not picking on him specifically) it may mean sexual chemistry. To ‘tine, it may mean a long and lasting bond which cannot be broken. Which begs the question — what is love? It’s like asking “what is intimacy?”
Perhaps the more important question is “when do the differing definitions of love correlate”? If (in my hypothetical scenario) ‘topher feels the steamy sexual bond and ‘tine feels the warm and fuzzy sense of endearment, then are they “in love”?
Now, go have a quickie before you have to leave for work and let us know the answer later in the morning. (’tine:
ProphetJoe the Irreverent scribbled
oops, it cut off my last sentence above– in reference to the quickie, I said:
(’tine: there’s another Nostradamus-style prediction for you)
Mara the Peacemaker added
I think the concept of love at first sight is overrated. With love at first sight as you said, Christine, you don’t know the other person — you don’t know their flaws, their strengths or the quirky things about their personality that make them unique and special. You don’t know how they express that love. You have nothing go on to make that love real and to me, that is partly what makes love or your relationship special — knowing that because a person loves you, they will support you or make certain sacrifices, etc. You don’t get any of that with love at first sight.
ProphetJoe the Irreverent added
So is love, as we’re using the term anyway, one part attraction, one part intimacy and one part trust (or loyalty)? I go back to the question: what is love?
Mara the Peacemaker up'n wrote this
PJ, I think it’s different for everyone. And perhaps that’s the problem with love at first sight — you don’t ever have a chance to define or experience what love is.
Christine the Lioness stated
I agree totally. Everyone defines what love is for themselves. For some that could be mostly attraction, for others it could be mostly friendship, or mixtures of those characteristics in addition to others. It doesn’t matter what love is to the other person. As long as they feel it for you, and you feel it for them, does it make a difference if that feeling is based on different attributes? The more important thing is that the other person feels loved… and in my opinion, that’s where difficulties can come in. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you’ll inherently do the things that make that person feel loved. Things that wouldn’t matter to you if they did or not, and you wouldn’t think to do for them, could be the things that make them feel very loved. So learning that about the other person and trying to give them what they need, along with the things you would naturally do to make someone feel appreciated, are both important.
Trouble the Pirate mentioned
Holie-craptamolie Christine… You’re 33? From your picks I wouldn’t have put you a day over 26…
“Love is what you leave on the sheets…”
Christine the Lioness remarked
Thank you, Trouble. 
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ProphetJoe the Irreverent spake, and sayeth
Hmm, 33 — same age as my wife. Great age for a woman: experienced now, but still has much of that youthful energy
Aivar the Groupie spake, and sayeth
I agree with Trouble i thought she was in like early 20s or even younger and like in college or something
IMO there is no such thing as love at first sight you can feel lust, admiration and attraction and i guess it can develop into love with time.
Love for me is when you know you can tell her anything thats on your mind and trust her with everything and can be completely open with her. Its when seeing her sad kills you and when seeing her happy always brings a smile on your face.
For me love is when the things that others would find quirky about her, like how she snorts while laughing which is the cutest thing to you 
, are something that you love something that make you smile and something that when you see them again and again always make you happy and make her even more special for you.
Its when being with her and well just talking to her makes you lose track of time and is something you always enjoy. Its when no matter how awful your day was knowing that she is there makes you feel better. Knowing you would do anything for her and she would do the same for you…
and well i don’t think you can feel that when you have just seen the person…
I have been together with my girlfriend for over 7 months now (yeah i know its not that long but its longer than most couples our age) before we got together we had known each other for over 4 years (always got along really great and well have been best friends really but well as i have always been a shy nerdy boy i didn’t think she would like me that way even though it was obvious ) and well the people who “fall in love” with someone new every week/month with someone they met at a club/bar/party seem a bit stupid… does the word love get thrown around that easily by over 20 year olds 
?
Ivy the Soldier quibbed this
I have to agree.. Only as a teenager. I didnt believe in it then either. But i’d been burned early on and watched many people fall only to keep falling and hit rock bottom. I’ve never experienced “love at first sight” I’ve experienced lust a few times but love.. HA.. no.. not gonna happen..
Christine the Lioness scribbled
Wow, Aivar… that’s a really well thought out definition of love. I think the word love does get thrown around a lot by the under 20s a lot more than the over 20s… but as you mature, love starts to mean different things to you. The “feeling” is still the same that you had when you fell in love at 16… but as your understanding of people in general evolves, and your understanding of yourself evolves, and you get to really know yourself better (we think we know ourselves when we’re young, but you don’t really I’ve found out– at least I didn’t know myself enough to know I could really rely on myself until I was in my late 20s), your view of the world obviously changes and that includes how you define love. When I said “love at first sight,” I wasn’t referring to people who fall in love over and over with whomever they have a crush on. I was talking about true, once in a lifetime love at first sight. Regardless… I don’t think either one of those is love.
ProphetJoe the Irreverent got all philosophical
How about soul mates, then? Do you believe in soul mates? Is there only 1 “true” soul mate for each of us????? Riddle me that batman! 
Christopher the Pyro scribbled
Soul Mates.. not to sound harsh or unromantic but that idea itself is fucking stupid. It plays to this idea of “fate”, if you want to believe in “fate” fine then you can believe in soul mates but I don’t tend to think my life has been preordained for me.
ProphetJoe the Irreverent penned this
Oh, ‘topher, you never sound harsh or unromantic… Hmm, let see, this is my 250th comment, what will I become now?? Senior Kingpin?
Christopher the Pyro stated
Guess you need one more..
ProphetJoe the Irreverent got all philosophical
Thanks for taking my suggestion, CFS! (that’s Christopher, the Fire Starter, to all you virgins out there)
Mara the Peacemaker up'n wrote this
I believe in earth mates, not soul mates. And you can have several 
ProphetJoe the Irreverent chimed in with
Oh Lord! She’s taunting (or tempting) Trouble again
Christopher the Pyro said this
Fire Starter didn’t fit but Pyro did so..
Christine the Lioness added
I agree with Mara on this one… I think there’s a whole littany of people who you are compatible with out there walking the world… regardless of where you decided to live, you might or might not find one, and your life would have taken a completely different course with each.
ProphetJoe the Irreverent asserted
OK, seriously speaking for a moment (I know, ‘tine — you don’t expect that from me), putting personal compatibility issues aside, can’t you be in a great loving relationship with potentially anyone?? I mean, isn’t it somewhat like picking a roommate? Some people have irritating habits which make you want to break the lease, while others (who you think would be poor roommates) turn out to be the best??
One of my best cyber friends knew a guy for years and considered him to be a great guy and a good friend, but she was absolutely NEVER physically attracted to him. After several years, she finally went out with him. She kept going out with him. Then she finally decided to have sex with him and found out he was the best she’d EVER had. She didn’t *think* she was attracted to him, but it turns out she’s addicted to his loving… doesn’t that show that you needn’t be physically attracted to you spouse (at least initially)? I *knew* I was attracted to my wife. I still remember the first time I saw her at work. She was just stepping into the Ladies Room and she was wearing a dark sweater and a skirt. She smiled at me and I thought (and still do) that she had the prettiest eyes I’d ever seen. She also had a great tush and legs. It wasn’t until later that I really realized she had gigantic breasts… 
Christine the Lioness commented
I’ve heard of people who said they weren’t initially attracted to their mates and then became attracted once they either got to know them or slept with them. I personally don’t understand how that works. I’ve always needed to be attracted to a guy right off the bat. I don’t feel physical attraction comes from realizing someone is a great person and fun to be with. Physical attraction comes from being physically attracted. Period. I’ve had really great guy friends who were funny and smart and cool to hang out with, but I never developed an attraction that wasn’t there right off the bat. But good for those people who can. I’m just not one of them. So no… you can’t be in a loving relationship with just anyone. Having had 33 years of life without that many long relationships (the longest was 3 1/2 years), I’ve dated my share of boys. And trust me… with some people, no matter how much you want it, it just ain’t gonna happen. Sure people can surprise you sometimes, but that’s like saying any candidate is as viable as any other candidate. And that’s not the case. Some people weigh in a little higher on the scale because of how they look, how they communicate, the things they value, how they see the world, etc. Like with Christopher, I was immediately physically attracted to him, but then again, you’re attracted to a lot of people. There are a lot of nice looking men in the world. With Chris, his looks (and the way he kissed) made me want to jump into bed with him… but it’s all his other qualities that make me want to do everything else in my life with him. I’ve dated lots of guys and none of them could bring that combination of qualities.
ProphetJoe the Irreverent asserted
Now that’s PUBLIC RELATIONS! or is it PUBIC RELATIONS?
Christine the Lioness uttered
*groan*
ProphetJoe the Irreverent spake, and sayeth
Obviously a pretender to my crown… get out of here, you wannabe!
Trouble the Pirate commented
Probably Chris spamming again…
i believe that love at first sight exist because thats how a fall with my husband
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