Christine the Lioness thought this

I think these rules were created back when:
1. The groceries for the “prepared dinner” were paid for by the man,
2. When the woman had time to “prepare herself” because she didn’t have a longer commute after her 12 hour work day than her husband did,
3. Fires were actually used to help heat a house instead of the cracker-box apartment that again, the woman pays for herself, because there ain’t no man writing out my rent checks,
4. Is happy to see him until he walks in the door and starts bitching at her about the way she parked her car too close to the support beams in the car port,
5. It’s hard to greet someone with a smile (or a frown) when you’re still stuck in traffic on the 405,
6. Men used to talk and converse… but that was before X-boxes and Playstations
7. If he’s going out without you, it’ll probably be the only evening you have to take a bubble bath and watch something besides Sportscenter on tv, so rejoice…
8. And whatever you do, definitely don’t correct his spelling of “compaired.”
9. Arranging the pillow is easy, but taking off his shoes can be a challenge when he’s already kicked them off and you’re having trouble locating one, hoping you don’t trip on it.
10. Don’t ask a question that you don’t want to know the answer to. For real.
11. A good wife’s place used to be by the side of a good husband, on the good husband’s yacht, in a Perry Ellis swimsuit and Harry Winston diamonds that good husband bought for her as a gift on their anniversary which he actually wrote down somewhere so he wouldn’t forget. And yes, a good husband deserves a good wife.

September 6th, 2006

Christine the Lioness commented

That’s very unfair… I’ve never been married because I’ve been holding out for the one I will stay with forever.

September 7th, 2006

Christine the Lioness got all philosophical

I agree that having the option to divorce is better than not having it. But the problem is, people use that as a reason not to take marriage seriously… “Oh, if it doesn’t work out, I’ll just get divorced.” The same with abortion. Abortion should be legal because it’s necessary… but the problem is that there are women who use it as an alternative to birth control… “Oh, I can just fuck him without a condom and get an abortion if I get pregnant.” Having freedoms shouldn’t become a fall-back to just make poor decisions (or not take decisions seriously). So my point is… maybe you shouldn’t marry an asshole to begin with and that could solve the problem too.

September 9th, 2006

Christine the Lioness added

All good points, fuzz.

I don’t know the statistics on how many women who get abortions also get more than one. I agree that most women who are putting themselves in situations where they are getting pregnant and there is no responsible father in the picture are engaging in other risky behaviors that probably aren’t good for them. The guys who comment on this site can say all they want about how great it is to find some girl who will fuck them and then not want a commitment from them, but girls who are doing that kind of stuff aren’t exactly the kind of girls who are always making the healthiest decisions for themselves. And they also tend to be the ones who wind up pregnant and then having to sue the fathers for paternity. The girls I know who have had abortions tend to also drink a lot, do drugs, choose complete losers for guys. The women I know who have higher standards in the men they date, are focused on careers and success, and don’t party all the time don’t seem to be having abortions. But that’s another post altogether… back to the issue of divorce…

It’s true people can change. But I think your point about denial is much more pertinent. You are either in denial about that person to begin with… excusing behavior or thinking it will change… or you are in denial about the relationship going down hill and don’t do anything to fix it in time… then find yourself in the middle of something that can’t be fixed at all.

What I don’t agree with is that when shit happens to a “normal guy,” they suddenly go off the deep end and become alcoholics. If you spend time with a person, you’ll see how he handles set backs in his life. He’ll show you if he’s a strong person or a weak one. You just have to be willing to open your eyes and accept what you’re seeing.

I almost married the wrong person also, so I’m not preaching or above all this behavior. My ex was an alcoholic and my loyalty prevented me from leaving when I first realized that the relationship was in trouble.

September 10th, 2006

Christine the Lioness hunt n' pecked this

I think you’ve already realized it.

September 10th, 2006